Ill let you in on a little secret...

So after my mid life crisis freak out, I calmed down and reverted back to my bible for a quick slap in the face. Ive never been big on religion but have always enjoyed reading about the laws of attraction. Its simple,  If you have a negative out look on life then you will only attract negative people and situations around you. The Secret by Rhonda Bryan help you change your mind set and thinking to a positive out look to attract everything you want from life. Ask, Believe and Receive.

I first read the secret about 3 years ago. Everyone sub-consciously lives by these teaching without realising. How else did I get to travel to some of the most beautiful countries in the world including, Thailand, Dubai, Mexico, Miami and Cuba, on a part time salary (not having read the book). Its because I always believed if I book this holiday it will be ok ill find the money and that's when situations like unpaid bonuses and tax rebates would pop up in my life. On the other hand I could have thought, no point planning a holiday iv got no money and then that would have simply been the case. Make sense?

Another case study of mine.

I didn't get my first full time job until I was 26. Once I decided I wanted to move from graphic design into photography, I also decided I didn't want to go back and study. I hated uni and was awful at writing essays. Why they make creative people write essays i do not know. So no to studying, whats next? I would need to look for a studio job but I had no confidants because I had no experience. The only local studio that I found was Venture Photography in Eton. A franchise of the Uk's leading portrait company. Could I really go in at the top? Or should I start with a company like Pixiefoto, who's work I absolutely detest. I then read The Secret and thought F it, I found the confidants and told myself I will work at Venture Photography at their lovely Eton branch.

So for a good year I kept checking their careers section for a trainee position but there was nothing. I even contacted them about work experience but they didn't have anything at the time. In the mean time I done a few short courses and carried on teaching myself.  I even actually applied for Pixie fotos as I just wanted to get some experience but I never even got a call. I then saw a position for a trainee photographer at Venture in Kingston but again not even a call back. I was determined not to give up, I really enjoyed photography and knew this is what I wanted to do full time. It only took me nearly 10 years after leaving school to realise what it is i really wanted to do, not be a librarian like the career adviser advised. What a waste of time they were! 

Then one day there it is was I saw a post on Gumtree and Photographers.co.uk for a Trainee photographer at Eton. I drafted my cv and as always I annoyed my best friend Miss B to proof read it for me and off it went. With in an hour I got a call. It was them ringing to arrange an interview. I felt so confident even with no experience, I just kept thinking positive thoughts like The Secret. Long and short of it, after a number of candidates it came down to me and an older gentlemen who was technically brilliant. It turns out you can know photography inside out but still have no people or customer service skills. The job was mine!

There are many great example in the book to help see life in a positive light to attract what you want. She talks about all areas of life from relationships to financial and health issues. Some people will say its all a coincidence and its just luck and timing but I do honestly believe what ever vibes you put out  that's the frequency you will ride.

I have been really negative lately, I have actually bored myself with my conversations being so negative and depressing with friends. I know Friends are there to listen but if I was them I would be bored of listening to me. Obviously starting a new business was never going to be easy but I attracted my studio because I have always pictured working for myself and I am so proud of that. However instead of staying positive through out the tough times I felt like I lost the reins and everything spiralled out of control. One bad thought after another. I didn't have one ounce of positivity left in me, I was in self destruction mode but as soon as I snapped out of it and went back to being positive and changed my mind set back, one good thing after another started to happen again. So its back to the secret for me. See it here

You heard it hear first, I am going to win the euro millions one day, I just need to start playing!